“3 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong” ~ Excerpt From Marc & Angel Hack Life

The following post is from an email I received from Marc and Angel angelc@marcandangel.com. https://www.facebook.com/marcandangelhacklife/

“Today, I’m sitting in my hospital bed waiting to have both my breasts removed. But in a strange way I feel like the lucky one. Up until now I have had no health problems. I’m a 69-year-old woman in the last room at the end of the hall before the pediatric division of the hospital begins. Over the past few hours I have watched dozens of cancer patients being wheeled by in wheelchairs and rolling beds. None of these patients could be a day older than 17.”

That’s an entry from my grandmother’s journal, dated 9/16/1977. I photocopied it and pinned it to my bulletin board about a decade ago. It’s still there today, and it continues to remind me that there is always, always, always something to be thankful for. And that no matter how good or bad I have it, I must wake up each day thankful for my life, because someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.

Truth be told, happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.

1. Pain is part of growing.

Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Good things take time. Stay patient and stay positive. Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually.

Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.

2. Every little struggle is a step forward.

In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.

And if you want it, you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the odds. And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine. You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth it. So if you’re going to try, go all the way. There’s no better feeling in the world… there’s no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE.

3. The best thing you can do is to keep going.

Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.

Awake every morning and do your best to follow this daily TO-DO list:

– Think positively.
– Eat healthy.
– Exercise today.
– Worry less.
– Work hard.
– Laugh often.
– Sleep well.

Be well,

ingebird

Not All Physicians are the Same

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Not all physicians are the same when it comes to patient care. I am finding that to be true more and more, as I hear stories from cancer patients. It isn’t just the fact that a particular physician makes a misdiagnosis but some seem to have serious lack of a ‘bedside manner’ — to being outright nasty.

I was so fortunate to have a team of doctors who seemed to truly care about me — the patient and always kept a positive attitude, even when there were ‘bumps in the road’.

I am currently helping a cancer patient who has quite a few complications, that I admit  make it a challenge to treat her, but this person has gone through so many health issues throughout her life and always came out of it, that she will not let cancer cause her to give up now. Her doctor has different ideas, which brings me to my topic. He is the most negative healthcare practitioner I ever heard of. He has never said one word of encouragement and even when she responds to treatment (so far) he gives her a bleak outcome.

I truly don’t know how she restrains herself from kicking this guy straight in his balls. If I were her, I would demand a new doctor and I would write a letter to the hospitals chief of staff about his behavior — at the very least this guy needs a refresher course on ‘bedside manners’.

I remember a speech that was given by the Oncology Departments Chief of Staff… his first words were — “the physician sets the tone for the patient. If he/she is negative the outcome will be the same. Patients need to be given hope, no matter how sick they are.”

Does this particular doctor even ‘get’ that? Part of a patient’s wellness program includes their mental attitude. So many patients are already afraid when they hear the word ‘cancer’ — it is up to the healthcare team to make sure the patient feels cared for and to have a positive attitude. This particular doctor is so obvious, to at least me, that he doesn’t care.

I’m guessing that at least most of you have watched at least one episode of the television show “House” — that doctor is such an ass that I couldn’t watch more than a few episodes. His character is a perfect example of how not to act, but he seems to limit his nasty behavior to his staff and not his patients.

If you are experiencing similar treatment from your doctor or someone on the hospital staff, you have a right to get a new healthcare practitioner and you have a right to lodge a formal complaint. When you are sick, you not only need to have the best team available who knows how to treat your particular illness, but they also have to want to help get you back to wellness.

Be well,

Inge